Here are 24 open minded answers for one of the most sensitive subjects about sex.
1. “It’s not a hole. It’s a human being. The better you connect the better it will be.” — Rob, 36, New York
2. “You really, really, REALLY have to use lube. The butt cavity does not moisten itself! That said, I do love the feeling when my guy fingers my hole without any lube or just a little bit of spit. So good.” — Jason, 24, Austin
3. “I don’t have any secrets per se but I know one thing: guys, your dick is not a sword. You can’t just ram that sucker in!” — Kyle, 29, San Francisco
4. “Anal sex is all about RELAXATION. If you’re too tense it’s as painful for the top as it is for you. The best way to relax is to breathe, especially when he’s entering you.” — Alex, 35, New York
5. “I feel like a bad gay because I never really enjoyed bottoming until I figured out which positions work best for me. Not all positions are for everyone — everybody’s different.” — Chris, 40, Chicago
6. “The best way to start anal is when you’re on your stomach and he’s kind of on top of you, like laying on top of you and sliding it in. Probably the most relaxed position to be in. It helps if he kisses your neck, ears, caresses your head. It helps it feel good as soon as the initial “ouch” is over.” — Stefanie, 22, Ann Arbor
7. “Guys with big dicks are really scary to have anal with, even vaginal. But you just have to tell him to go slow if he wants the goodies.” — Courtney, 30, London
8. “Anal sex isn’t something you can just jump into in the same way you can just jack off or do oral. You have to have foreplay, work up to it.” — Sam, 41, Dallas
9. “You know what? Some people don’t even like anal sex and they just pretend to because they think it’s what they’re supposed to do. Don’t pretend it feels good if it doesn’t. Either stop or communicate with your partner. You can still have sex even if no anal is involved at all.” — Dax, 20, New York
10. “It’s actually not supposed to hurt. Well, maybe at the beginning because suddenly there’s a dick inside of you. But really it’s supposed to feel good. If it doesn’t then something’s wrong.” — Jake, 29, New York
11. “You have to tell your partner how you like it. Communicate if you want good butt sex.” – Melissa, 38, Philadelphia
12. “So many guys know what they know about sex from porn but my ass is just not stretched out that way. You have to pace yourself. You can’t really do wham-bam-thank-you-maam when you go anal.” — Brian, 30, New York
13. “I’ve always felt that anal was best when you get the angle right!” — Daniel, 30, New York
14. “It’s always a good idea to explore the area on your own. Like get a dildo you know you can take (but with a thick base so you don’t lose it in your ass!) and practice.” — Alexandra, 27, Minneapolis
15. “Focus on what feels good. Butt bumping is not as automatic as vaginal so you have to focus on what feels good to you. Don’t focus on what’s weird, otherwise you’ll get tense.” — Katie, 33, Boston
16. “I can’t believe I have to say this but CLEAN YOUR ASSES. You’d be surprised how many gay boys I’ve met who raise their asses in the air like, ‘Rim me, rim me,’ and then you get ready to go all in and they are just nasty. How can you call yourself a bottom and yet your booty is always funky? Just no.” — Jessie, 35, Los Angeles
17. “Definitely use protection with someone whose sexual history you don’t know and for any hook ups. But if you’re in a committed relationship with someone you trust, bare feels so good.” — Ben, 23, Chicago
18. “Here’s the secret to anal sex: you have to WANT it. You have to really, really want to get fucked in your ass.” — Chris, 33, New York
19. “Anal sex feels good, don’t get me wrong, but so much about it is in your brain. If you’re gay it’s this thing of being “fucked,” feeling another dude’s warm dick inside of you, knowing his dick is inside of your ass going in and out, watching him thrust, seeing how hot he looks when he sweats, thinking to yourself, ‘Yeah, fuck me!’” — Jason, 38, New York
20. “Save your bed sheets. Do it on a dark towel — a butt sex towel!” — Etienne, 34, Las Vegas
21. “If you worry too much about it hurting then it’s going to hurt.” — Dustin, 19, Saint Louis
22. “Focus on each other.” — Ashley, 33, New York
23. “If a guy doesn’t rim me then anal’s a no go.” — Parker, 30, New York
24. “Santorum is real.” Grey, 29, New York.
Source: thoughtcatalog.com
Author: Madison Moore
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